Fantasy Land

Behind is not a place.

It's a story we tell ourselves about where we should be versus where we are.

The thing about being "behind" is that it assumes there was a perfect schedule to begin with. That somewhere, written in stone, was the exact right pace for your work, your project, your life.

But here's what actually happened: You made a guess about how long things would take. You were wrong. But everyone is wrong about this, almost always.

The overwhelm you’re feeling isn't coming from the work itself. It's coming from the gap between expectation and reality, between the story of where you thought you'd be and the story of where you are.

So you have a choice.

You can spend your energy being upset about the gap, or you can spend it closing the gap.

The first choice feels productive but isn't. The second choice feels uncomfortable but works.

Being behind isn't a judgment about your worth. It's simply information about what happens next.

What happens next is the only thing that matters anyway.